Self Communication Evaluation
(My thoughts, their thoughts)
I am not surprised at my outcome of the exercise because in dealing with my son who was one of my family members that participate, no matter what the reality is, he is the victim so my communication is off, my listening is off and my verbal aggressiveness according to him. I truly expected that, but it was only fair to let him have a chance, and also the fact that I live in an area where I do not have many associates. What I found unique is that although I do not say a lot of things out loud, my internalized thoughts were that of some of the questions. I think mentally sometimes I do get frustrated when something needs to be done, and because of strong will a person refuses and makes a stand based off of being stubborn. For example, my roommate who rents to us, is single and has been so being around kids is different for him, but he enjoys them. He got cable just because he could even though we talked about the fact that the kids would not play anymore, and they would get fixed on the TV. I asked if he would put it in his room so that they would not feel the need to stay on the couch all day with no activity, and he would not. Another example, I asked if he could leave the key, and he said yes, well he decided to hide it, which was fine, but where he hid the key was the problem. He took a sign and laid over the key, which he place on the ground in the grass next to the house. Well we got home at 11 pm and it was dark and the key was like a needle in a haystack. I was so upset, because once again I felt that it could have been handled better. When I asked him why, he said well "I did not want anyone to see where I put the key" and I thought to myself, "you did not want anyone including yourself to be able to find it either"; but I kept that to myself and few other things LOl. What I am trying to say is, when I encounter stuff like that, in my head a few thoughts that aren't so nice surface, but I do not let it come out of my mouth out of respect.
I guess I learned that "if you can't say something nice, then you should not say anything at all".
My thoughs: Communication is the gateway to understanding, and if one cannot convey their ideas appropriately, then they can end up being misunderstood. Also, I do believe that how you view yourself, does play an active role, in how we communicate with others, and I feel that if our self-concept is poor, then we tend to convey ourselves as such. For the most part people see me as better than I see myself, but of course with my son will always have a selective perception of me, because he is close to me and he has his own personal reasoning. Last, but not least limited self-denigration, in my opinion can improve a person's self concept, because we are our own worst enemy at times.
Reference:
Rubin, R. B., Palmgreen, P., & Sypher, H. E. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures: A
sourcebook. New York: Routledge.
"Communication Anxiety Inventory" and "Verbal Aggressiveness Scale"
Copyright 2009 Taylor & Francis Group LLC Books. Used with permission from Routledge via the Copyright Clearance Center.
Copyright 2009 Taylor & Francis Group LLC Books. Used with permission from Routledge via the Copyright Clearance Center.
"Listening Styles Profile-16"
